Thursday, February 23, 2012

Thursday Poll

If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all.
That saying applies in a lot of circumstances.
Say you see an ugly baby. (Is there such a thing as an ugly baby?) You aren't going to tell the parents that their kid looks like a troll doll.  Or how about when stranger posts a picture of their makeup on a website. You wouldn't tell them they look hideous...well some cowards find courage on the internet and will say something nasty.  In that case. the "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all" still applies but some jerks will ignore that.  What if you are in a restaurant and the cook sends out something that doesn't taste good?  Does the "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all" motto still apply?  Of course not. You let the waiter know and they fix the problem. (hopefully not by spitting in your food) What about buying a product from a company and you aren't satisfied with it  does the "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all" motto still apply?  Of course not! You let the company know you are not satisfied with the item YOU purchased.  Right?  So why was it when people were complaining about the pathetic My Glam Bag for February on the My Glam Facebook page were these "cheerleaders" for My Glam  spouting off the "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all" motto?  I have no idea.  Maybe these women don't like conflict.  Maybe they were part of the VERY small minority that was actually pleased with the bag.  Regardless of their personal feelings about the My Glam bag, it should not dictate what OTHERS can say about their experience with the bag.  Scolding other Facebook fans who expressed displeasure, in a non confrontational way, about the contents of February's bag is just as obnoxious as telling a stranger that her makeup application looks like crap. (In my opinion) Oh. That shouldn't be in parenthesis.  OPINION is the key here.  It is my opinion that the February My Glam Bag was below my expectations and was extremely unsatisfying.  Since when are we not allowed to voice a negative opinion on the Facebook page of a brand?  It really annoyed me that these "Polly Purebreds" were all offended that people were expressing displeasure with the February Bag.  One of these women even went to far as to say that those that were upset with the contents of the bag were being "UNGRATEFUL".  Really?  I should be grateful when I PAY for a product that does not meet my expectations?  Am I grateful to the hairdresser that gives me a crappy hair cut, because well, after all, he took the time to cut my hair?  HELL NO! Let me make it as simple as I can for those that thought people shouldn't complain about the product they received.
A) I signed up for a service based on examples of what sort of product the company would deliver.
B) I PAID for the service with the same expectations that I too would receive the same if not similar products.
C) When the service delivered products that were well below REASONABLE expectations, I am allowed to be unhappy with the service I paid for.
Plain and simple.
Yes. The internet has created a whole new breed of bullies.  People that never would say nasty things to a person's face, now have this false courage to do so over the internet. That behavior is deplorable.  HOWEVER, voicing your opinion about a poor service over the internet with REASONABLE methods (such as leaving a comment on the company's Facebook wall, especially when said company is unresponsive to e-mail. ) is acceptable. (No swearing please) In short. Let's leave the cliche "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all" to the bullies that bash people's looks or kids or whatever.  But don't get your panties in a twist because you don't like to hear that your favorite company may not be pleasing all of their customers.
On To The Poll!

1.  Blush Of The Day? - Chanel Joues Contrast in Espiegle.  A loverly orange/coral/salmon/peach color.  One of these days I'm going to figure out the difference between these colors.

2.  What is your favorite quote by someone else? - Well I have a favorite quote from Coco Chanel, but I think Olympia Dukasis' line from the Steel Magnolia's movie is more appropriate for today's poll. "I always say, If you don't have anything nice to say, come sit by me.".

3. Most overrated and underrated beauty products? - Overrated = Maybelline Great Lash Mascara. It's not the miracle mascara that magazines claim it is.  Underrated = Lancome Dual Finish Powder Foundation. Every time I use it I get compliments on how smooth and airbrushed my skin looks.

4.  What is one of your pet peeves? - Chewing gum or eating with your mouth open. I have some cow-workers (intentional typo) that eat with their mouths open and it makes my skin crawl They also chew gum in the same fashion and snap it too. It's all I can d not to throttle them and duct tape their moth shut.

5.  What is your current beauty lemming? - The Chantecaille Coral Reefs Palette. I on every Chantecaille 4 pan palette. I must own this one too.  Wanna know why?  Because they put a taupe shadow in every palette and they all look beautiful!

P.S. If you disagree with my little rant above. That's OK. I'm happy to hear another side to the discussion.


  1. 1. Blush Of The Day? - Chanel Horizon

    2. What is your favorite quote by someone else? -Chanel as well: "Most beautiful things in life are free. Second most beautiful things in life are very expensive".

    3. Most overrated and underrated beauty products? - Overrated = DiorShow! Hated it. Underrated = Givenchy face powders, they don't get the credit or visibility they deserve, they're just fab for soft focus effect.

    4. What is one of your pet peeves? - bad grammar, which French speaking people do very well. I know our grammar is intricate but we spend years studying it for heck's sake!

    5. What is your current beauty lemming? - Ren skincare, I want to try more (and that has NOTHING to do with their promotional vid!)

    And I do agree with you. Lots of people consider that if you're exposing yourself on the internet, then it's your duty to accept whatever is told to you. It's just not. Life rules apply here too, you shouldn't have to take crap.

  2. Hahaha, your rant made me laugh! Love the quote and "cow-workers" too :)
    1) MAC My Paradise - dug it out and it seems prettier now than I remembered it being last summer
    2)Certainly not favorite ever, but right now I keep thinking "Suck on it" from that not-good-looking Jennifer Aniston movie trailer. I guess I'm kind of poo-brained this week
    3) Overrated - Jemma Kidd Light as Air Foundation: how is this any better than any drugstore light coverage foundation? It doesn't last on me no matter what I try. Underrated: Stila (new formulation) Tinted Moisturizer SPF 20. I never hear about this tinted moisturizer but it is everything a tinted moisturizer is supposed to be!
    4) Cliquish people. I know I'm not your best friend but if you only answer tweets from the same 5 beauty bloggers you might as well just PM them (not you, Pink Sith, others!)
    5) Giorgio Armani Fluid Master Primer - I have a sample and even though it is silicone-y like Smashbox/MUFE it actually makes my foundations last longer unlike those other two.

  3. Anyone can be honest. It takes poise and character to be tactful.

    In a public forum, I feel that being tactful shows professionalism. But if I'm hanging with my BFs, I will say 'That sucks!' if I don't like a product. I would only comment on their terrible makeup look (if they have one) if they ask my opinion. The closer I am to you as a friend, the more I'd lean towards saying something like 'Do you like that blush?' which could open the conversation so I could say 'it seems to be a bit greenish on you.'

  4. I agree with everything you said RE: My Glam Bag.

    And that Chantecaille palette is beautiful. I want one.

  5. I love Lancome Dual Finish - been using it for years! Glad to hear you love this product, too! :-) And I also completely agree about Great Lash...I really dislike it.

  6. I completely agree with you about needing a place to give feedback to a company that is non-responsive. If they don't want feedback on their Facebook page, they can lock their wall...which means if it's open, you can type whatever you want. If I were you, I'd skip ordering from Glam Bag - they obviously don't need your money enough to actually act like they're willing to solve a problem. Even if you only spend $5/year, especially in this economy, they had better be/act grateful to have you as a customer.

    1. BOTD: Haven't gotten there yet. Just having my first cup of coffee. Don't feel really perky today so think I'll pick out some pink blush and try to fake some perkiness.

    2. Favorite quote by someone else? "Nice Greek girls are supposed to do three things in life: marry Greek Boys, make Greek babies and feed everyone...until the day we die." -Nia Vardalos, My Big Fat Greek Wedding

    3. Most overrated and underrated beauty products? - Overrated: I'll take yours one step further and say EVERY mascara on the market. Underrated: NP Set Pasarella Powder Foundation. Yep, it's the one from Target. No kidding - it will cover ANYTHING I want to hide and leave no zits behind. Took a chance and I am just elated. Better get it now if you want to try it though because anything I fall in love with makeup-wise always winds up discontinued within a year.

    4. What is one of your pet peeves? My husband owns a bar, so I could write you a novel...but I think it's that I have to 'set the example' and be June Cleaver-like to people that I sneak around a corner and hide from if I ever see them outside the place. I consider myself to be a nice, polite, respectful person, but some people make that really hard. There's one lady who would take information from my Facebook, mangle the story and then tell the whole bar, acting like she's our family's best friend. She actually went to my husband because she had such a problem with me unfriending her (and not accepting a new friend request) that she went to my husband to see if he could get me to accept it. As if?? Some people need to put their bucket of Crown down long enough to get a life.

    5. What is your current beauty lemming? The Mad Men lipstick and crème blush you posted the other day.

  7. I didn't sign up for My Glam, but I've heard the rants. And I'm right there with you on the idea of if you paid for it, and there's a set of expectations, you should be allowed to give the feedback to the company. It's your opinion, and it's also no other customer's business to take you up on that. It's between you and the company. So customers hating on other customers is just not cool.

    1. Blush Of The Day? - Not wearing one yet. But I'm getting dressed up this evening so I will be. Not sure what. Probably Mary Kay Shy Blush.

    2. What is your favorite quote by someone else? - Currently digging Diane Von Furstenburg: "Be the woman you want to be." It's simple, but to the point. She's also probably not the only one who said it.

    3. Most overrated and underrated beauty products? - overrated: Diorshow Mascara. It never did a darn thing for my lashes. Underrated: Qtica Nail Growth Stimulator. It rocks as a treatment and a base coat and most of the time I feel like I'm the only person rocking it on a regular basis.

    4. What is one of your pet peeves? - People (Husbands!) who answer the phone in the middle of conversations and say things like "I'm in a meeting, can I call you back?" This is what not answering and then texting is for.

    5. What is your current beauty lemming? I really want that new Bobbi Brown Brightening Nudes Collection. Like I seriously need more neutral colors. But hey... I'm digging it!

  8. 1. Blush Of The Day? -Maybelline Bouncy Blush in Orchid Hush. I lurve the texture of these guys, but I have to be really heavy handed when applying or else it won't show up (in my eyes). And I'm pale as f%@#. But it feels SO COOL, and the colour at least stays a nice, true orchid instead of magically morphing into a generic pink.

    2. What is your favorite quote by someone else? -"Nothing is permanent in this wicked world - not even our troubles."- Charlie Chaplin.

    3. Most overrated and underrated beauty products? - Okay...I tried some samples of MUFE HD foundation and found it kind of "meh". It seemed to require I wear a primer, because without it it just clumps in my pores and looks gross. I may be slightly miffed at the fact that I have to blend both 110 and 117 in order to get a matching shade. As far as underrated goes...I just don't hear much about Tarte's tinted moisturizer. I've been using it for over a year now and it's what I reach for when I'm lazy. It covers better than most tinted moisturizers, and doesn't settle into my pores or crease up on me during the day. I will mention that it's probably best for skin that's neither too dry or too's very dewy, so it'll just make greasy faces look greasier I'd imagine, and during the winter I usually put on a moisturizer first before putting it on. Well, I guess it may not be HG material for either end of the skin spectrum, but for my sensitive, not too oily but not too dry skin, it's love.

    4. What is one of your pet peeves? Bad breath and smelly people. When I was in college I sat behind far too many people that suffered from this. I also hate snoots and elitists, but who doesn't?

    5. What is your current beauty lemming? I'm on a no-buy for lent, so EVERYTHING. Hehehe. Probably every shadow and lip lustre from Fyrinnae. I also want to collect all the Revlon Lip Butters and Maybelline Bouncy Blushes. Ooh, and I want a big eyeshadow palette from Inglot. I'm gonna save SO MUCH MONEY this spring.

  9. Let's face facts, which I believe we've done. The Glam girls promised a certain service and a certain quality of goods in order to get people to sign up and they didn't deliver. Period. I expect pizza when I go to Pizza Hut, not a Big Mac. How is that hard for them to understand in an honest straight forward way? Are we supposed to tell them the Emporer is wearing clothes just because they demand us to? No. I say stick with honesty, Elvira. People who have something they want hidden won't like it, but most people will appreciate it.

  10. At the risk of sounding like a glittermobber (because I'm really not, I'm really nice IRL!) I was fine with my Glambag. I think constructive criticism is a GOOD THING. But some people (not you) take it too far to the whining stage.

    There are far more productive things to do than bitching on a FB page. Email them. CALL them (that gets the most attention). Follow up a call w/ an email. I have BTDT and gotten lovely results from companies that way.

    I guess when I see one gripe after another I think, expectations a bit high? Me, I was terribly unhappy with Birchbox--and everyone loves to sing their praises. I quit after 3 months.

    I believe if you want the company to improve--give constructive criticism and then let them work on it. If you don't care, unsub. I guess I just think things could be handled in a much more positive way, and that's just my opinion ;)

    Now, that being said, on to the important stuff (thank you for letting me share my opinion!!)
    1. No blush
    2. My favorite quote is by Marianne Williamson from A course in Miracles
    "Our Deepest Fear"
    3. Overrated.....nothing I can think of
    Underrated.....Indie brands peeves--people who let their kids run amok.....everywhere
    5. current beauty lemming--the final flakie in the DL spring collection (dark blue with copper? flakies)

  11. 1. Blush - Benetint
    2. Fave quote - There is nothing more dangerous than a resourceful idot - Scott Adams (creator of dilbert)
    3. OVerrated - Nars Orgasm, Underated - Elizabeth Arden High shine gloss. Cant understand why no one is talking about it.
    4. Rant - Stupidity - need i say more
    5. Lemming - Guerlain meteorites by Pucci.... from the post by British Beauty Blogger

  12. 4. What is one of your pet peeves? - Chewing gum or eating with your mouth open. I have some cow-workers (intentional typo) that eat with their mouths open and it makes my skin crawl They also chew gum in the same fashion and snap it too. It's all I can d not to throttle them and duct tape their moth shut.

    I love this one! I hate people that eat with their mouth open as well. Makes me lose appetite and become very gross. About the chewing gum part, that is disgusting as well. Love the way you put it, "Cow-Workers."

  13. I would like to give an AMEN! to your rant. I think that it is almost our obligation to tell companies that they are not providing a service that, we, the consumer, want. They should be thrilled by feedback....end rant.

    1. Chantecaille joy. I just watched lisa eldridges pink cheeks video and was inspired to do some pink cheeks of my own.

    2. let's just say I'm reaaalllyy close to ordering this print from etsy

    3. i'm just going to say most of mac is overrated. I think tarte's lash hugger mascara is really underrated. That stuff creates seriously fluttery lashes

    4. along the lines of yours, I HATE when people talk with the mouth full. I am also seriously peeved by people sniffling.

    5. I'm lemming the new lip chic shade. Need.

  14. ITA on the rant. You have every right to express dissatisfaction with a product or service you PAY for.

    1. Blush Of The Day?
    I don't wear blush. Never have, probably never will. It just doesn't look good on me.

    2. What is your favorite quote by someone else?
    “Just think of how stupid the average person is, and then realize half of them are even stupider.” ~ George Carlin

    3. Most overrated and underrated beauty products?
    Overrated- NYC pressed powder. This stuff gets a lot of love on Makeupalley but it cakes up & turns my face into a slimy mess. Disgusting. Underrated- Revlon ColorStay topcoat. I. LOVE. THIS. I've tried just about every topcoat out there and always come back to this. It sets my polish without causing tip shrinkage & it dries nice & shiny. Love it.

    4. What is one of your pet peeves?
    Sexist jokes. I'm so sick of guys making sandwich & kitchen jokes at women that I'm about to snap. They were NEVER funny to begin with, they're just stupid & degrading. Grrr.

    5. What is your current beauty lemming?
    ORLY Stone Cold. I am a total sucker for blues. I've also been lemming some NFU-OHs for several years now- 50, 52, 51, 61, 63, and 65. I'm just waiting to have enough money to spare to justify buying them all :/

  15. I agree with your rant SO DAMN MUCH. Glittermobbing by angry fans means that a lot of people are scared to write about their negative experiences with companies, for fear that the company will sic the angry hordes on them :(

    1. Blush Of The Day? - Benefit Bella Bamba. I've been using this a lot lately, it seems to go with everything! I love it with bright watermelon pink lipsticks like MAC Impassioned and Party Parrot. It's also lovely on a more natural day to brighten up the face.

    2. What is your favorite quote by someone else? - ARGH can't think of anything good off hand. Whenever somebody asks I immediately think of Fight Club and Tyler Durden "sticking feathers up your butt does not make you a chicken"

    3. Most overrated and underrated beauty products? - Not that I've used it myself, but Maybelline Great Lash Mascara is terribly overrated. Even my friend with the most fabulous lashes ever had horrible results with it. I think MAC lipglasses are also overrated, I buy them every now and then and instantly regret it because of how sticky they are. Maybelline Pulse Perfection mascara is seriously underrated, it gives me big fat lashes instantly and holds a curl like nobody's business. It's being discontinued though :(

    4. What is one of your pet peeves? - LATENESS. I find it infuriating! It's okay if you text ahead to let the other person know you're running late, and if it's not a chronic occurrence. I find lateness to be so disrespectful to the person you made plans with, and it's just poor planning. If I can get up early and put on a full face and arrive on time, I expect the same of everyone else. One of my superiors never leaves enough travel time to get to our other location to meet me, he always leaves *just* enough time but of course is always late. *angry sigh*

    5. What is your current beauty lemming? - Primers! I'm on the hunt for a great primer to combat my nasty sweaty skin. I'm also lemming half the lipsticks MAC has coming out :)

    1. I've been glittermobbed before--NOT pretty.

      I guess I don't think it's very productive to complain on a FB page. Only once did I ever reach a person in charge doing that. I've had much more impact calling or emailing the company. I'm not afraid to complain when I think it warrants it. But when I see some people whine, it's like a toddler having a tantrum and I think: First World Problem.

      And what if people are happy? Aren't they allowed to say so without being called a "glittermobber?" I have given some of my things from sub boxes to my daughter, and I'm using the GC from MyGlam to get her a hairdryer (she is borrowing my new one). I'd spend about the same amount in the store.

      I don't fear writing a complaint on a FB page--but I get better results resorting to other avenues. Sorry to jump off your response Silhouette!


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